Patience is the keyword
If you want to train your horse correctly, it requires patience. It is probably the most important element in the training of horses. As human beings, we tend to have a goal that has to be achieved within a certain time frame. When we set a goal for ourselves that is one thing but to set a goal for our horse within a certain time frame is something completely different. We have body structure, temperament, previous training and much more to take into account. All horses are different and will require different time frames. It is therefore also impossible to compare our own horse with other peoples horses.
Time to develop the muscles
One must have patience to wait for the horse to develop its muscles so that it will be able to carry out the work we ask it to do without suffering harm.
If you train your horse as I do and recommend, then patience will at some point become a natural thing in the training of the horse. At first, it can be difficult. But after a while, you start to see all the little details. That's the wonderful thing about this form of training. Suddenly it is no longer the big changes that matter, it is the small daily improvements that delight one. You get something new to look forward to and enjoy every single day.
You will at some point experience that you will have to take a step back in training. This is where one might think that one's patience is put on a test. But when you reach the point where you have been better at assessing what the horse's needs are, then it is not at all difficult. It will be quite natural and absolutely necessary. Of course, you may be annoyed a little that you did not get it right from the start, but you have no doubt that you will take the time it takes.
One will never try to force anything through. It will never be a good thing anyway. It will be wasted work to train the horse if it is first tense and nervous. One should be patient, wait for the horse and suddenly one will discover that what was otherwise so difficult suddenly is playfully easy. Completely without any annoyance.
Think long term
Nor do you keep exercising the same exercise until you think you get the desired result. You try a maximum of three times, if there is no improvement, then you stop and try again another day. If the horse improves in the first attempt, you also stop. This gives the horse a reward and there is also no reason to go on if what you just did was good. You could just end up with the exercise perhaps getting bad again because the horse gets tired. So it is also a case of thinking a little more long-term and not expecting the horse to change significantly in one lesson.
Someone might think, well will you even get somewhere. Yes, you will if you keep faith in it, keep working systematically and you will be surprised. Horses trained in this way will try to do their best and they love to work. And as they are not encumbered by sore muscles and bad experiences, they will eventually become prettier and more rideable than horses who are trained more "traditionally".
Too many horses are killed because people do not have the patience to do a decent job. Whether it is a matter of money, success, norms or pressure from friends is not to say, but sad it is.